A series of short posts from The Rollercoaster FB page from 2021 through 2024.

This seemingly endless pandemic is certainly not doing any favours to anyone's mental health.

So I was browsing FB this morning, and came across a post making fun of unicorn hunters in one of the polyamory groups. Normally I'd laugh and agree with it. Except this was a meme of "When you see a cute girl on Tinder, but the profile is looking for a third, and her man is a solid 2/10." Which maybe could have been somewhat amusing, until I went into the comment section. I've never been more disappointed in the polyam community.

Sorry for a lack of updates. Life's been keeping me busy. So here's a few random comments I've made on other posts lately that I think should be shared here as well. This might be slightly long, so bear with me. I'll put nice headers on each comment to give a bit of context.

This is a collection of the original posts from The Rollercoaster FB page from March 2020 through the end of that year.

Still sorting the next couple of "Hang-ups" posts in my head, sorry for the delay, my brain doesn't always work quite like I'd want, and sometimes I wonder why I try to run these pages when I have such problems expressing my thoughts. Then I re-read some of the comments I make in other groups/pages and realize in those cases I seem to have no problems getting thoughts to convert to words. Maybe it's only on my own pages where "writers block" takes hold because I want things to be "perfect" (which is of course an arbitrary concept that has little meaning, and certainly doesn't describe any aspect of a social media page...) Anyway, while waiting for my next theory post, here's a few comments I've made on various posts with absolutely no context. Enjoy!

Haven't really been active on here lately, sorry about that. With the current regiment of medication, meditation, and therapy working for depression and anxiety, I'm going to branch off into other topics related to mental health. I kinda started that with the self image posts. What I didn't mention was the personal reasons why self image therapy speaks to me.

This is a collection of the original posts from The Rollercoaster FB page for the first two months of its existence (started New Year 2020).

So many things I want to write about, but the FB Al-Gore-isms make it difficult to get all the posts seen if I split them up, so this is going to be a longer post instead. First off, a couple flash backs to previous posts.

So I'm taking a slight diversion away from the usual topics to talk about something I feel pretty strongly about. Bullying. In what seemed like serendipitous timing, literally a few minutes after finishing A.S. King's fantastic book "Everybody Sees the Ants" (a huge part of which is on the topic of bullying), I was browsing FB and came across a meme picture that was joking about bullying. The joke was pretty tame even if like certain other kinds of jokes, it's one of those things I don't personally find funny. The comment section on the other hand was a gong show. There were obviously some decent human beings who pointed out how horrible bullying is, and then there were the bullies and bully defenders who really do think that tormenting others is funny. I'm trying to run a somewhat objective page here, but from someone who experienced bullying first hand for a large portion of my school years, FUCK BULLIES AND FUCK ANYONE DEFENDING THAT BEHAVIOUR. Okay, I think I'm done. Just needed to get that off my chest. We'll be back to random thoughts on relationships and uplifting memes once I'm in a good headspace again. I'm not sharing the original joke, but here's a random selection of some of the comments...

Back in the spring, I started a series of posts on jealousy, and briefly touched on the difference between jealousy and envy. I kind of want to expand on that, because while jealousy is talked about a LOT in the various relationship communities, envy is far less discussed. I think that's a problem. So first off, jealousy has it's root in fear. Fear that your connection with someone will be loosened or broken by their connection with someone else. It's explicitly about connections you already have. Envy on the other hand I think is more rooted in self doubt and feelings of inadequacy. In a relationship context, it's when you see people with connections that you don't have, and really wish you did. The people you are envious of might be your own partner(s), or maybe friends, acquaintances, or even strangers that just remind you of "what you are missing". That's the real danger of envy, it so fills you with feelings of self-criticism that it can blind you to all the good in your life. I'll expand on this subject further in a later post. Right after I spend several hours/days reading similar posts written by people far more eloquent than I and wishing I had that writing ability...

2019-11-08 07:43

Depression doesn't just ramp up the negative emotions, it ramps up every emotion. Riding the emotional rollercoaster that comes with every depressive episode can be confusing, terrifying, and oddly exciting (as strange as that sounds.) I know this doesn't seem to have too much to do with relationships which is the overall theme of this page, but reflecting on our personal headspace can definitely help us with our interpersonal relationships as well. When you're riding the emotional rollercoaster, you may be taking others along with you. Some may get in the car willingly to hold your hand during the scariest parts. Others might simply be standing too close as you swoop down during a low section, and get caught by your danging arm. Now they're holding on for dear life, hoping you can let them go. Maybe I'm taking this metaphor a bit far, but I'm still looking for a platform so I can get off this ride.

2019-02-02 09:05

This was originally posted in multiple parts, but I prefer them to be together this time.