A series of short posts from The Rollercoaster FB page from 2021 through 2024.

So, whenever a post or meme pointing out a social justice problem is shared, there is a specific subset of replies that forms a recognizable pattern.

This seemingly endless pandemic is certainly not doing any favours to anyone's mental health.

So I was browsing FB this morning, and came across a post making fun of unicorn hunters in one of the polyamory groups. Normally I'd laugh and agree with it. Except this was a meme of "When you see a cute girl on Tinder, but the profile is looking for a third, and her man is a solid 2/10." Which maybe could have been somewhat amusing, until I went into the comment section. I've never been more disappointed in the polyam community.

Pretty sure whoever made the picture below meant it as some kind of dark ominous warning, but honestly that all looks good to me. To hell with their so called "creational norm", or as I like to call it, "patriarchal heteronormative toxic monogamy culture".

This is a collection of the original posts from The Rollercoaster FB page from March 2020 through the end of that year.

My Post: Who's the most important? — 2020-04-14 08:19

So, a discussion came up in one of the polyamory groups I'm in about what effects the isolation/distance is having on relationships, and libido. Some people noted a loss of interest in both, others noted a crazy libido and desire for contact with partners (both existing, and new.)

Haven't really been active on here lately, sorry about that. With the current regiment of medication, meditation, and therapy working for depression and anxiety, I'm going to branch off into other topics related to mental health. I kinda started that with the self image posts. What I didn't mention was the personal reasons why self image therapy speaks to me.

This is a collection of the original posts from The Rollercoaster FB page for the first two months of its existence (started New Year 2020).

A conversation came up in one of the groups I'm a member of, asking how people define the difference between a friendship, and a partnership. As a relationship anarchist, I think that can be really tricky, and the lines between the two can get really blurry. To keep things super simple, I would say a friendship is someone with whom I have a positive bonding connection with. Be that social, platonic, romantic, sexual, any combination thereof, or something else entirely. A partnership is a friendship with mutual commitment to grow together in the aspects of connection we share. This is why as individuals we can have friends-with-benefits (a phrase I don't particularly like, but am using here for ease of reference), while at the same time having platonic partners. It's not about the "level of intimacy" (another phrase I'm not super comfortable with), but about the mutual commitment. The concepts are not mutually exclusive. And relationships are not static, they change. A friend may become a partner, a partner may become a friend. You can find you have relationships that don't fit into any pre-conceived categories. That's all okay! In the end, I don't think there are any set-in-stone definitions that everyone can agree upon, so just enjoy all of your interpersonal relationships for what they are: unique!

So I'm taking a slight diversion away from the usual topics to talk about something I feel pretty strongly about. Bullying. In what seemed like serendipitous timing, literally a few minutes after finishing A.S. King's fantastic book "Everybody Sees the Ants" (a huge part of which is on the topic of bullying), I was browsing FB and came across a meme picture that was joking about bullying. The joke was pretty tame even if like certain other kinds of jokes, it's one of those things I don't personally find funny. The comment section on the other hand was a gong show. There were obviously some decent human beings who pointed out how horrible bullying is, and then there were the bullies and bully defenders who really do think that tormenting others is funny. I'm trying to run a somewhat objective page here, but from someone who experienced bullying first hand for a large portion of my school years, FUCK BULLIES AND FUCK ANYONE DEFENDING THAT BEHAVIOUR. Okay, I think I'm done. Just needed to get that off my chest. We'll be back to random thoughts on relationships and uplifting memes once I'm in a good headspace again. I'm not sharing the original joke, but here's a random selection of some of the comments...

I shouldn't have to explain this, but some of the posts I've seen lately make it clear that it apparently hasn't been said enough: If everyone involved in a relationship is consenting, and >=AOC, it's nobody else's business. End of story. Thanks for coming to my TED Talk.

2019-11-08 07:43

2019-02-02 09:05

This is going to be a large topic, so I’m going to split it into a few parts to make it easier to write. In our interpersonal relationships, not everyone involved is always going to have the same attractions towards each other. They may be out of sync, or asynchronous; they may be completely different shapes, or asymmetrical. There are many variations on this theme, but probably the most famous is unrequited love. Songs, movies, and social movements have been born from this one seemingly simple topic. I don’t think it’s quite as simple as most depictions would make it seem though.

This was originally posted in multiple parts, but I prefer them to be together this time.