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  • Rollercoaster Ride and Platonic Supremecy

    post date: 2019-12-16 08:53

    So many things I want to write about, but the FB Al-Gore-isms make it difficult to get all the posts seen if I split them up, so this is going to be a longer post instead. First off, a couple flash backs to previous posts.

    First off, remember my post about how depressive episodes are like riding a roller coaster? Well I'm adding to that metaphor, because like a lot of roller coasters, after every great high point, comes a sudden and severe drop. I know when riding real roller coasters I love that part. Not so much when it's describing mental health. After having a couple of weeks on nice stable ground, I somehow stumbled back into the coaster car around the middle of last week, and this ride is a wild one! A fair warning to anyone who knows me, I'll try not to pull you along with me on this ride, but I can't guarantee anything right now. I'm thinking of starting a separate page to discuss this stuff, as I don't want to keep detracting from the original topic of the page. Just not sure yet.

    Anyway, moving onto something more positive, a few posts ago I mentioned how some comments in one of the discussion groups I was in insinuated that platonic attraction was less important than sexual/romantic attractions. Well, I've seen a few more comments with the same general theory, and I realized why it bothers me so much. Every close relationship in my life has at it's core a strong platonic attraction. You know what you call sexual or romantic attraction to someone you aren't friends with? A crush on a stranger. Not to say there's anything wrong with that, and I know some people live for the whole "hook up" culture, but when talking about long term relationships, if they don't have a platonic core, I find them much harder to understand. Maybe that's just me, I dunno, but at least it gives me a reason why I feel so strongly about the people who do prioritize romance and sex over everything else in life. Like, I'm not asexual, I'm not aromantic, I really do enjoy those things, but they aren't the defining part of any of my relationships. They are awesome, and they are important, but for all long term relationships, friendship is at the core.

    I've got a ton more thoughts in my head that will eventually emerge into the form of posts on here, but it might take a bit. I expect a brief break on posts and a reduction in the amount of shares might be forthcoming. Don't worry, I will be back!

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