Still sorting the next couple of "Hang-ups" posts in my head, sorry for the delay, my brain doesn't always work quite like I'd want, and sometimes I wonder why I try to run these pages when I have such problems expressing my thoughts. Then I re-read some of the comments I make in other groups/pages and realize in those cases I seem to have no problems getting thoughts to convert to words. Maybe it's only on my own pages where "writers block" takes hold because I want things to be "perfect" (which is of course an arbitrary concept that has little meaning, and certainly doesn't describe any aspect of a social media page...) Anyway, while waiting for my next theory post, here's a few comments I've made on various posts with absolutely no context. Enjoy!
I personally don't think the split attraction model[1] is at all unique to aspec folks. I think all kinds of attractions may have their own unique properties. I don't think when it comes to interpersonal relationships (or human emotions in general for that matter) there are any strict rules. I'm (bi/pan)-sexual, (bi/pan)-demi-romantic, and have several platonic and queerplatonic relationships with people of various genders which are just as intimate as any of my romantic or sexual relationships. My experiences are not the same as anyone else's, and just as some people "don't get" how I observe and interact with the world, I don't expect I'll fully get how everyone else does either. Anyway, that's just how I see the world. Cheers!
All kinds of love are valid! All combinations of relationship attributes are valid! Romantic relationships without sex are just fine! Sexual relationships without romance are just fine! Platonic or Queerplatonic relationships without romance or sex but still with a deep intimate connection are just fine! As long as everyone involved is consenting and happy, it shouldn't matter what form the relationship takes!
That would be a problem for me, as I don't really separate out my feelings. Platonic, sexual, romantic, alterous, queerplatonic... They're all just attributes that may apply to any number of my interpersonal relationships, and I don't think I could even try to control that. How do you stop feelings?
[And one bonus one not related to relationships at all, but here for fun.] See also: when you're talking on the phone with someone, and reach for your phone to look up something you wanted to share with the person you're talking to, and can't find your phone...
Okay that's all folks, back to work now. Hopefully I'll have something a little more fleshed out for my next proper post. Cheers!
The split attraction model is where someone may have a sexual orientation that differs from their romantic orientation. So say bisexual but homoromantic, or panromantic and heterosexual. My reply was in regards to someone who believed only asexual folks could have a separate romantic orientation (and I'm assuming by that logic that only aromantic people could have a separate sexual orientation), which as you can guess, I disagree with. ↩︎