Sorry for a lack of updates. Life's been keeping me busy. So here's a few random comments I've made on other posts lately that I think should be shared here as well. This might be slightly long, so bear with me. I'll put nice headers on each comment to give a bit of context.
~ On how Heinlein and other scifi/fantasy authors helped me ~
I was the "weird" autistic kid growing up, and found a lot of solace in science fiction and fantasy. I'd decided monogamy didn't make much sense to me when I had yet to go through puberty, and at the time thought I was probably the only person in the world who thought so. My parents had a fairly large collection of books. Heinlein, Herbert, King, Zelazny, and Bradbury were among my favourites. I was probably around 10 when I read "Stranger in a Strange Land" and "Friday", and Heinlein's frank exploration of alternative relationship dynamics really helped me feel like I wasn't completely crazy. I didn't actually stumble across the terms "polyamory" or "relationship anarchy" until my late 20s. Up until that point I'd just described my philosophy as "everyone's a friend, some friends I have different connections with than others." I think that description still sums up my philosophy, but now I know I'm definitely not alone!
~ On the topic of people having sex with friends with no romantic attachment ~
I've had several sexual friends. I'm a relationship anarchist, so every one of my relationships can have it's own set of characteristics, and doesn't need to fit into some neat little category. Life's better this way.
Editorial note: I intentionally avoid using the FWB moniker except in certain casual conversations where it's sometimes the simplest way to explain things. I think a lot of my friends would probably be surprised to find out how many of them I'd happily add additional connections with...
~ On self image, and what we're most insecure about ~
I took some photos of a shirtless me right after a shower about half an hour ago. Originally intending to send them to a particular group chat. Then I got all self conscious and backed out. Apparently the thing I'm most insecure about is all of me.
~ A follow-up to the self image comment, after a reply about having an "iffy body day" ~
Mine is more like an iffy body lifetime. I'm better than I used to be, but still can always see the flaws first and foremost. I said fuck it and sent one of the photos to the aforementioned group chat this morning. Step 50317 of infinity complete! If I can help even one other person with self image issues by sharing my experiences, I'm happy!
~ On making this post right now ~
Okay, that's enough for now. Some of those are a bit personal, and a bit exposing, but honestly, I don't care. As I said in the last one, if sharing my experiences can help even just one person, it's worth it! Have a great day Theorists, and I promise to return soon with more fun posts!