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  • New Relationship Energy

    post date: 2020-11-17 13:50

    New Relationship Energy (NRE) is something that a lot of people experience, regardless of if they're monogamous, polyamorous, or relationship anarchists.

    So what is NRE? It's that heightened state of emotions when you find yourself in a new relationship (or in an existing relationship which has recently added new properties, such as adding romantic and/or sexual elements to an existing platonic relationship.) Twitterpated, lovestruck, infatuated, head-over-heals, besotted, smitten, etc. The fact that the English language has so many terms for the same experience gives an idea of how common it is.

    It's an elating feeling, and brings overwhelming joy to the people experiencing it. As a life-long relationship anarchist, I've had a lot of continually changing relationships, and have experienced NRE many, many times! Not just with romantic and sexual relationships either, but with a large variety of intimate relationships.

    Now, with all the positives mentioned, we should probably talk about potentially negative side effects.

    If you are non-monogamous and have existing partners, I think it's important to be aware of NRE, and not to allow your focus on new relationships become a detriment to your existing ones. This is even more important if you are ADHD or ASD (which if you follow my other page, The Rollercoaster, you'd know I am both.) Maintaining balance can be difficult, but it is definitely doable (I like to think I do a fairly good job myself.)

    I guess there's also the potential for someone to become addicted to the feeling of NRE to the point where they're always looking for new relationships. This isn't something I've experienced personally, but it is something I've heard of happening to people I know.

    Anyway, I'm trying to keep the page posts slightly shorter, so I'm going to leave this here for now. I will say I'll likely touch on this topic some more in the next little while, as I explore several topics surrounding changing relationship dynamics.

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